The Suburban Hedonist: How Curious, Smart Couples Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy—Without Blowing Up Their Lives

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What if the most radical thing you could do was finally, unapologetically, pursue your own pleasure?

Meet the Suburban Hedonist. They pay their taxes, show up for their kids, water their plants—and still crave toe-curling, laugh-until-you-snort pleasure. They look perfectly normal on the outside. They are your neighbours, your colleagues, your friends. And they are done living a beige life.

Written by leading relationship therapist, sex educator, and podcast host Sue McGarvie—someone who is both a clinically trained therapist and someone who has actually been there—The Suburban Hedonist is the only guide to ethical non-monogamy written by a professional who has danced in pool foam at Hedonism, played naked volleyball in Jamaica, and spent years inside the lifestyle community. This isn’t theory. This is the map that didn’t exist until now.

Fully revised and expanded for the Second Edition, this is the honest, judgment-free handbook for curious, smart adults who want to explore consensual non-monogamy—without the drama, the shame, or the wreckage.

Inside, you’ll discover:

Who Suburban Hedonists really are—and why they’re not who you thinkThe Real-World Rules of Ethical Non-Monogamy—practical, no-B.S. frameworks that actually hold upHow to negotiate, set boundaries, and have the conversations most couples are too afraid to startThe truth about jealousy—why it’s information, not a stop signSwinging, polyamory, hall passes, and relationship anarchy—clearly defined, honestly examinedThe Suburban Hedonist Spectrum—a 20-level scale from Vanilla Bean to Relationship Anarchy, so you know exactly where you are (and where your partner is)STIs and other landmines—the health realities no one else will tell you plainlyResort Reviews—insider guidance on adult lifestyle destinationsThe Aftercare Agreement (Bonus Chapter)—the essential, overlooked conversation every couple needsSelf-assessment quizzes, exercises, a full glossary, and a curated reference section

Whether you’re newly curious, midlife reinventing, or already living the lifestyle and craving a smarter framework—this book meets you where you are.

No stone-throwing. No one-size-fits-all model. Just permission to explore at your own pace, with your own rules, armed with real expertise.

You are not broken. You are not weird. You are not alone.

The Suburban Hedonist is your invitation to a life less beige.

Sue McGarvie is a relationship therapist, founder of the Ducklings Social Group Inc. and Nookie College, and co-host of the Turned On with Sue and John podcast.

Publisher ‏ : ‎ Ducklings Social Group Inc.
Publication date ‏ : ‎ June 9, 2026
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Print length ‏ : ‎ 121 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1067783490
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1067783495
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 8.5 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.28 x 9 inches
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